I found this book helpful in identifying what I was doing wrong as a woman, and in defining concretely how men think. I have read other dating books and it just seemed like the same repeated jargon or it was generally one sided, but never defined how to make both sides see eye to eye, or gain better understanding. This book cleared up alot of questions for me. Thus all things made perfectly good sense after evaluating where past experiences went wrong. Yes its a book of advice, but then again all self help books are. I will say that this was an easy read, and i didnt feel like i was reading a college literature book, and it didnt bore me. I recommend all women look into this one.

I wish I could give a copy of this book out to every woman friend past who has ever ruined their lives because of their boyfriends, or those who they thought were their boyfriends. If they actually follow it is another story, but this book is a full frontal attack mixed with humor and insight into others as well as ourselves.

I like the message she is pushing underneith it all, that women can be powerful. She encourages women to go for their MBAs and higher education, you don't have to settle to be a second class citizen. Don't ever let loneliness be your motivation to get involved with bad people on any level. To me many things go without saying, but it's important to tell gals who might be either a little neive or too desperate for attention and wanting to be liked otherwise. I don't know how many gals I've known who have ruined themselves financially, been abused (mentally, physically, or even sexually), have given up everything and moved to other cities or even cross country for some loser who could care less about them. We entertain ourselves as children with fairy tales about a handsome prince who comes riding in on a white horse to take us away to a fantasy world, and what do we do? We pick trolls who we have to mother and wait on hand and foot! They like to chip away at our self esteem because it makes them feel good about themselves. This is a how to for the woman who knows it's more than just looks and body, it's about self worth.

Some have accused this book of being too over the top or too frank about sex at different points. People, there are gals out there who have not watched enough cable TV and more that are the coldest of cold fish out there. You never know what goes on behind closed doors, and more often than not there is NOTHING going on behind those doors! So read books like this and give yourself some idea. Every little bit helps.

Moore gives practical advice and helps women empower themselves. Women tend to invest too much of themselves too early. This is a good book for any woman who is tired of having her hopes dashed.

I agree with reviewer Carol C. "ccjello" (Kansas City, MO USA) who noted the authors comments re: 'It is filled with simplistic filler -- like lists of types of men & descriptions of each. For example, the "Jock" has "great sexual stamina" and "likes a screamer in bed." The "Nerd" "will go with you to flea markets" and has "kinky Star Trek fantasies", but, the author cautions, "don't bother with a Nerd if sex is vitally important to you". The author advises that take up sailing if you're looking for "Republicans and politically conservative men"; take up rock climbing if you like "high achievers" who are "always reaching for the top." Scuba divers are "deep"; runners "go the distance in relationships." You get the idea -- stereotypes abound'. which is so odd since I was married close to four decades (am a widow) to a nerd who had more stamina than any 'jock' I dated before I married.

Perhaps dating isn't what the book is about, but more along the lines of how to find a man who will be a pal and sex buddy. It obviously isn't for the serious man or woman who wants to develop a long relationship or marriage.

In this book, the authors advise women about men and how to date them. This book is about the nature of men: men like to take the initiative, men like to plan, men want acceptance, men like to set boundaries, men do not like nags, men do not respond well to guilt, why men call, believe a man when he says "You are not my type," men like to bond with their buddies, etc. It also gives the signs that a man is interested in a woman and the clues that he is not interested. Lastly, after teaching us so much about men in general, the authors discuss the importance of achieving one's best no matter one has a man or not.

I found this book very uplifting and fun to read. One tip that I always remember is "When a man only gives you his mobile phone number, it means that he wants to remain (what else?) mobile, of course." This tip is very funny.

It had in just the index an entire belief system on how to date not like a man, but more how the stereotypical man would want. I'm not that type apparently. I tend to like hanging out with her posse, I despise taking initiative, and rather than having her allow me to do the various sexual things described, I like male submissive sex. This is how to date like a man in my book. Oh, and I HATE sports!

I bought this book after I got out of a long relationship and realized I knew little about the world of dating. I found the book to be a breath of fresh air, viewing dating as something that should be fun and a good learning experince, rather than filled with high expectations and disappointments. The author advocates dating as much as possible because you can learn a lot about men and what you want in a man, have a fun time and meet new people, and eventually find a partner. She also emphasizes working on yourself before looking for a relationship.

The author's views are a little outrageous at times - e.g. she advocates juggling as many dates as possible so you don't put too many expectations on one man, and her chapter on sex is not for prudes! But her enthusiasm and humor are contagious.

The author's views on men, and the differences between men and women, are useful (and always respectful of men). It amazes me how often a woman will deny these male-female differences (truth be told, I used to be one of those women!).

The down side of the book: the author's views on men can border on stereotype, and her views on pornography are more liberal than I like. And the book seems a little "thrown together." But overall, I thought the book was very funny and it helped me really understand, appreciate, and enjoy men. I've bought it for a couple of friends, as well. I would definitely recommend it to any woman who is dating and not enjoying herself.

As a male, I'm not this book's intended target. However, my wife (who doesn't have her own Amazon account) would like to make a few comments:

"I recently decided to reconnect my reading journey with my life journey (and girls, that equals spiritual journey!). I had been reading books like 'Men are like fish', and thought about re-entering the world of dating. My girlfriends were like "You go girlfriend!", and my husband was encouraging, provided I had the right advice. Well, the best advice we could find was this book, which is from the male's perspective (we thought it best to adopt a common sense approach, without getting over-emotional about it, as I'm sometimes prone to do). Well, it's going great! Just the other day I signed on for a fly-fishing course in Montana, and my husband is doing a great job of keeping the house topped up with mice and spiders. Dating is clearly an end in itself, and the experiment is really getting somewhere!"

This book has way too many stereotypes and contraditions. In the same sentence the author tells women to date for fun, and to make dating a science experiment. Some of her advice is good as a pep talk and to increase self confidence, but the steretypes of men and the games to play are so unnecessary. Be confident and be real. If you are sincerely having fun dating, you will attract the right guys. Dismiss the second half of this book.

Give him what he wants and he's yours. Your very own self-absorbed Neanderthal. Hey, what about what I want? Fortunately, not all men fall into this category. The trick is finding them. Though most of us need to look for ourselves first.

This book was fine until it gets to the chapter on how to have sex like a man. It doesn't say one thing about how to do that. That entire chapter is devoted to "how to please a man" which is in direct conflict with the title and the rest of the book. I cannot figure out why the sudden switch at that point.

Well from reading your book it sure pays to be a man. The double standard is pervasive. This book should be entitled "You are Not Allowed to Date like a Man if You Ever Want to Get One." It's ok and expected for men to have casual sex - women have to wait four months. It's ok for a guy to call relentlessly, but women have to play the unavailable game. It's ok for a guy to do just about anything he wants to while women have to learn all these stupid rules. Get real! Playing by all your rigid first, second and third date rules sucks all the fun out of going out. It's not fair that you expect women to walk the straight and narrow line but admit that men can be wild fun seekers. Your book is one contradiction after another.

I had this book on my shelf for over 3 years, then all of a sudden I was having problems with this person I really liked. He was in a eight year relationship with another woman (his first). I was sad about it even though they were broke up (to him), but not her. She can't let him go. He's a good guy. Anyway I couldn't take it. I needed some tips on how to better myself and this book is the bomb. I'm ready for any man who tries to approach me.

When Ford came out with a certain new model in Europe, the guy that had first visualized the look of it - which finally resulted in a whole new concept of the models that later appeared on the market - said he had achieved everything with it, because people will either LOVE it or HATE it, but EVERYONE has an opinion about it. Reading the reviews of Ms. Moore's book reminded me of that story.
It seems like readers have very extreme views about what she has to say - much like it was with the Mars-Venus series as well as The Rules. So whether she is right or wrong, she definitely has something important to say, because it obviously stirred some pretty extreme emotions.
After the first couple of chapters, I thought I'd made a mistake. At one point she hailed feminists (who I think are about as bad as abusive men) and she kept calling me (the reader) baby, girlfriend and honey, which I first found pretty annoying. But then I realized she was far from being feminist and she just called me nicknames because that's just the way she is; I'm sure she is doing that all the time at her private sessions as well.
Yes, there WERE some stereotypes there (no, I neither think a man will only wear cologne when he's out "hunting"), but the useful and solid pieces of advice the book is filled with AND the amazing sense of humor she has finally made me not wanna put the book down until I reach the very last words. I thought she had gotten SLIGHTLY carried away at the sex part (and she didn't quite convince me I was open-minded enough only if I paid a stripper for my man only to later have hot sex with him), but she does have some very witty opinions there as well.
But these are all just details the reader should not overanalyze. I think the main message of the whole book is to take the whole dating game much more easily than we, women tend to. She keeps stating it's NOT the end of the world when your date (or ONE of your dates) doesn't quite turn out to be marriage material. She puts great emphasis on inner work, physical and mental protection and self-esteem, which you all have to admit are the foundation stones of a healthy relationship.
Overall it's a funny, happy kind of book full of advice MOST of which I strongly believe truly work in this world of ours.

This book, once I finished reading it the first time, now has a very special place in my bathroom. This is not a reflection of the content in a NEGATIVE way. It is there because I use it as a reference, and what better place to do some good, quality reading?!? I refresh my memory before going out to a social event.

This book hits the nail on the head. My most valued lesson is about going to places to meet men. The book says to be happy - smile, make men want to be around you. Men don't women who have problems, or complain a lot. They want a girl who is positive, and will be fun. When I go out, I laugh, smile, talk to people, and am usually the one with the most men around me. It's like a magnet!!!

The other valuable pieces of information provided in this book are too numerous to mention. BUT THEY ARE TRUE, so buy this book. It will soon become your favorite reference book, too.

I stumbled upon this book as I was browsing through a list on amazon. I realize that this book is part of a group of books designed to brainwash women into submission but I still couldn't help wanting to wirte this review. With risk of sounding patronizing I want to say, women, do yourselves a big favor and don't read garbage like that because nothing good will come of it! To follow this advice is to conform to the thought process of the most ridiculous men out there, the ones that objectify women, the ones that can't get past their adolescent fascination and compulsion towards sex, the ones that will break your heart out of total ignorance. This book should be titled "How to do exactly what an infantile man wants you do so you can inflate his ego". Come on, "a woman knows that men like head"!? What is this and who cares about it?

Ladies, I just read an amazing book, the Sedona Method. Check it out on amazon. It is about letting go of one's need for approval and security. Making changes on the inside is the only way to ever feel any genuine satisfaction in life.

After reading this book, I became empowered to handle the whole dating situation. This book is to the point and well worth the money spent. I reviewed it with some of my male friends and they agreed with several of the author's points. I would buy the book again.

As I have read and re-read this book, I find myself nodding my head and thinking... "That's right!!!" If I would have known these things years ago... not to mention in my youth... I know I would have made much better choices in men. I quote this book all the time... so much so that my single women friends tease me. I've even quoted it to my male friends... I just love this book!

As a seasoned veteran of the dating world, I have become sort of the 'resident guru' on men and dating within my cirlce of friends, co-workers and acquaintances. I subscribe to the principles of this book and I am never at a lack for dates with quality guys. (I'm just not ready to remarry at this point in time.) I have been divorced for 7 years and have had serious marriage proposals from very nice men 4 times post-divorce. I am not a raving beauty -- but I am a woman men fall in love with and a woman they love to be with.

Why? Because I really DO date like a man. Myreah Moore really does know what she's talking about in this book. I read the prior edition and I buy this book for all of my 'newly re-single'girlfriends. It is one of the best gifts I can give them. As a result of changing the ways they date, I have 3 friends who are engaged to and 2 who have married great guys.

Myreah Moore knows her stuff! If you read this book and really change the way you look at men and the way you look at dating, you'll be amazed -- not only will you have more dates than you know what to do with -- you'll gain a great group of male friends who will do anything for you -- not because you used your 'feminine wiles' and whined and manipulated them into it --but because you're such a fun woman to be with.

I recently decided to join the fun-filled world of dating again. Dating for fun. I read a couple of other books and was really psyched up about it. Then I read this book and wanted to crawl under a rock. I thought maybe I am not ready to get back in the game. Maybe I can't do this. I did not feel entirely good about the situation. Perhaps it was the generalizations about men. I personally do not feel that all men are either pigs or unemotional robots, who care nothing for human beings and all they want is sex, sex, and more sex. Perhaps it is because I am a woman. And I like being a woman, and I don't want to treat dating like a science. I also like to be whimsical and have fun. I don't like my relationships with people to be structured. The authors recommend that you only see the person that you are dating once a week for four months. And that you have a pair and a spare. I just felt her whole attitude towards dating was very cold and machine-like. Date one hundred men before you get married??? What if number 7 is your lucky number? She claims that the goal towards dating should not be marriage. But it sure felt like that was supposed to be the goal to me. Who knows, maybe I am wrong and will end up alone. Admittedly, I read this book for a reason, so I might not know what I am talking about.

The author keeps referring to the book as a "program" and I may be wrong, but this isn't a "program." It is a bunch of advice.

I did give the book two stars because I did feel that there was some good advice. She talks about where to meet people, and the type of men you are likely to attracted at these activites. (generalizations) She also recommends not to dress like a slut, because then men will want you for the dreaded "one thing only." She also focuses on working on the inner self, which is probably the most important advice to ending up in healthy relationships. There is also a lot of stress on not depending on a man for financial resources. Become financially dependent on yourself. Which I think is great advice.

If you want to be a man-eater and approach dating in a very cool scientific manner, then this book is for you. If you want to focus on positive fun relationships with people, then this isn't the book for you.

I've read a lot of relationship and dating books and this is by far the best! It's also easy and FUN to read. I was surprised by many of the insights and I learned a lot. I think it could also help increase a woman's self-confidence and self-esteem when it comes to dating. It answered so many questions that I've wondered about. The author really knows what she's talking about. It also goes into how to recognize guys that should be avoided. I wish I'd had this book when I first started dating - it could have saved me a lot of heartache.

Okay, so after reading this book, I've learned that I'm the only guy on the planet that likes to kiss girls, and I'm "homophobic" because I'm ...insecure about my "size." C'mon ladies! Where do you get this information? A little too much TV, huh? I saw a girl reading this book, and she had so many pages bookmarked, I had to check it out. I have to agree with many of the themes and statements, but ladies, we're not all this insane. I wear cologne everywhere I go, and half the time its because I like the smell of it. This books says "No guy wears colgne unless he's trolling." Really? So I suppose I'm in love with my cousins, since I wear cologne around family... huh? Don't be so general, and give a guy a break, would you? Don't fill the head of my future wife with such [junk].

Good book which gives insights on how men date and why men are the way they are.

I picked this book up in the relationship section at the bookstore. I was in a long term relationship and had started to view relationships from a woman's perspective. The woman I was in love with had a great impact on my life, and our relationship changed the way I perceived dating.

This book was great, it reminded me how I used to view relationships and dating prior to falling in love. That way (the male way) is much healthier, more comfortable and less stressful in my honest opinion. So for guys getting out of a Long term relationship I would suggest you take a look at this book for a little refresher. And as far as for women, I think it gives some advice that can make dating a lot more enjoyable for you, help you understand men better, and help you accept yourself, making you more confident in yourself, your desires and your appearance (which is a great turn on).

Best wishes to all,
r

The first half of this book provides a self-esteem pep talk and great insight into how men operate, and probably makes it worth the price. It explains how men often think and why some things that you make think are kind (giving him little gifts or paying for dinner) or innocuous (introducing him to your friends or family too soon) are actually scary to many men. The second half was a disappointment. It is filled with simplistic filler -- like lists of types of men & descriptions of each. For example, the "Jock" has "great sexual stamina" and "likes a screamer in bed." The "Nerd" "will go with you to flea markets" and has "kinky Star Trek fantasies", but, the author cautions, "don't bother with a Nerd if sex is vitally important to you". The author advises that take up sailing if you're looking for "Republicans and politically conservative men"; take up rock climbing if you like "high achievers" who are "always reaching for the top." Scuba divers are "deep"; runers "go the distance in relationships." You get the idea -- stereotypes abound. There are also pages titled "Men LIke Blow Jobs" and "Men Like Women Who Swallow" and (although I haven't met them) "Men Don't Like Kissing".

I found the initial pep talk section, which tells us that men adore strong, smart, confident women and encourages us to pursue the PhD or MD and to beat him on the tennis court, to be inconsistent with the advice in the second half of the book -- which suggests that we allow men to rescue us in some ways, so when you find a mouse or spider in your house, don't be afraid to call that cute guy down the street & ask him to come over & help. He may even spend the night on the sofa if you act really scared. (Yes -- that story is in the book). The author also describes a scenario where a client deliberately fell (while rollerblading) in front of a guy she wanted to meet so that he could help her up and give her rollerblading lessons. The message seems to be -- be strong but act weak. Although the author acknowledges up front that dating is game-playing (because men like to play games, she tells us), the advice in the second half of the book seemed a little too manipulative, advising single women, for example, to take a fly-fishing course in Montana.

This is worth reading for pep talk & the insight into how men think & operate. I'm not sure I'd bother with the overgeneralizations & game-playing advice in the second half.

Ms. Moore and Ms. Gould put into words some very helpful hints with regard to never compromising your self-esteem nor your standards when in the dating realm, which will, in the long run, net you the results you are looking for in attracting and keeping a suitable mate. Good solid advice for a woman of any age.

I recently started dating again after more than 10 years. I bought several books on dating after a guy I had been dating for two months "cut and run" when I suggested we get together on new year's eve. Now I have a more realistic view of the dating rituals (and "games") and how men need to be the pursuer. Honey, if he isn't pursuing you, he's not the right one. Good practical advice along with do's and don'ts for women by understanding how men approach dating. Along with Venus and Mars on a Date, I highly recommend this book. I read it two times and am sure I will read it over and over again. Myreah is right on and you will find it easy reading.

Buy one copy for yourself and an extra copy for that girlfriend in your life who is always analyzing and obsessing over why HE DIDN'T CALL!!

Coming out of a ten year relationship I truly did not know where to begin. Suddenly, after reading this incredible book my personal life has sprung to life, and I mean I am living the good life of meeting successful, handsome, exciting men. I needed a plan, I couldn't date like a teenager. I am looking for someone to enhance my life out of choice not desperation or need to have a date.

This book is a bible to me and should be to all women. It makes the man hunt fun and throughout Myreah is a guide on this new journey. I treat this like a business and each day I reread different areas I have highlighted to utilize that week.

Just like exercise these are muscles I haven't used for such a long time. Myreah has taught me new exercises and I never feel alone. Her writing is fun and easy to read and I am convinced she is the mistress of dating. Thanks to her my friends and I are going to find the men of our dreams and have great fun along the way.

Anne Bank Financial Consultant and Licensed Psychotherapist

This is a quick read. It is not a text book or a how to manual. The book is filled with suggestions that make sense and will be fun to follow without getting technical. Many of the points made by the author are true, men usually have a pair and a spare when dating. So why shouldn't we do the same! I would suggest this book to single women.

I just had to reccomend this book to all of my single girlfriends! it was informative, funny & right on point! ... A must read!

This book is a wealth of information that women can use to play the "dating game" with a better hand of cards. When speaking to a potential date on the telephone, I open the book and ask the recommended questions to weed out inappropriate partners. I took Myreah's advice and used a matchmaking service, and now I have several men who are interested in dating me. I highly recommend this book to every single woman I meet.

I was very impressed by Ms.Moore's book. One of the first things she tells you is to work on yourself before trying to date, and to change your outlook of dating as to solely finding a husband, but to see it as a time to meet new people and in time hook up with one person. Straightfoward,to the point, and real good. Thanks Myreah!

I highly recommend this book for those who have been told they think like a man when it comes to dating. It will help to confirm what you already know.

For those of you who are unsure about what to expect from a man, this book is for you. This will help protect you from making yourself vulnerable to many, many dating games that both men and women play.

Yes I'm a guy. My wife bought this book for one of her friends but I was able to read though most of it. The authors are dead on about how guys think and act through out the book. Not everything applies to all men but it is true on the whole. You may not like it, but yes, this is what we are like. If you really want to know what that guy is thinking buy this book.