I saw Gavin De Becker on the Oprah show and just had to get the audio CD to listen to the entire storyline. I would suggest this as a good gift for your daughters or wives or anyone you care about. It is real life thoughts that you sometimes think but don't trust yourself and might brush them off thinking that you're crazy or far fetched. This backs up the ability to challenge the thoughts as to if something really is a good idea or what the consequences are.

I would definately recommend this book / audio CD.

Good for piece of mind and how to think about the world in practical common sense way.

I am a Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner in Texas. I fully agree with Gavin De
Becker than prevention of violence is key. Like the author, as I am inter-
viewing and examining a sexual assault survivor, so often they say "He made me very uncomfortable", or "I didn't want to hurt his feelings", or " I had a bad feeling...". I think this CD should be a gift to all young women, and men, before they begin to date. There are times that the language may be somewhat advanced for anyone younger than 16 or 17 yrs old, so I suggest the cd be listened to with a parent or a group with adult leadership (drill teams, cheerleaders, chess club, girl scouts, etc) so as to open discussion and help with understanding and trusting one's own instincts. Excellent information, and the cd is full of interesting and eye opening stories that hold your interest and will provoke many stories from its listeners pertaining to their own personal experiences where they denied their "fear instinct" and could have been, or may have been in danger.

This book is wonderful help for women, in particular, to assess and respond to potentially dangerous situations. I am sure it would benefit men, as well, to read the book, but it especially struck home to me, as a woman. I will give it to my daughters.

Women and men alike should read this book. Gavin de Becker gives names and numbers to the alarm bells women too often ignore, and helps lay out some of the differences between the sexes' experiences of their surroundings. When I first encountered this book, as an excerpt in a magazine, I photocopied it for my coworkers to read. Only two people voiced negative reactions to it. One was my then-boyfriend, who turned out to be an obsessive, overbearing manipulater fueled by insecurity. The other one - believe it or not - wound up stalking me for months.

I got him to stop by following Mr. de Becker's advice.