This fascinating look into the mind of an ex-porn star turned female porn filmmaker was the first full book I'd read on my new Kindle. I must admit being surprised at how well the Kindle functions. It is very easy on the eyes and unlike working on my Mac my eyes don't get tired from reading text on the Kindle. Even reading the Kindle while riding an exercise bike or commuting by train doesn't bother my eyes and I'm not even reading text set on the largest font setting. The Kindle is proof that E-Books will soon become a favored way to publish as well as the chief method of reading books. It is a sign of the digital publishing world to come. The savings for printing, storing and shipping books will be cut those costs to basically nothing. Entire forests will be spared. E-Books are the ultimate goal of the green movement. In addition to saving a ton of money, E-Books can also be easily updated regularly.
Returning to the book review, I enjoyed this particular book because as a former male documentary film and video maker, it was fascinating to me to see how the feminine mind works. Their approach to making erotica and porn film is very different than the approach and vision of most of their male counterparts. This author/filmmaker approaches it just as she approaches sexual fantasies. In this volume the writer explains to female readers how to apply the same principles she uses to making an erotic female porn film to finding and judging potential mates. She is looking for sensitive men who are truly interested in her and making her happy. She explains how she judges whether a potential leading man for one of her films is sensitive enough to exhibit the erotic passions she desires in her own erotic fantasy life as well in her film. It only takes reading the first few chapters to realize the truth of the statement that it is "women who rule the world." They are the ones in charge just as the passive Sub is really in charge of the Dom as well as the scene.
I'd not yet reached the half way mark in the book when I began to doubt that it was really necessary to apply all the same standards to finding leading men for her films as she was using for finding her own flawless lover. Her image of her own perfect lover/mate also seemed at bit too perfect of a fantasy to actually find in real life. She appeared to have placed her own ideal lover upon a pedestal much like an ancient Greek statue of an nude Olympian. Feeling a bit inferior to her perfect model I continued reading. To me, photography, film and video are not real. The camera lies. Models and actors usually aren't at all like they appear on screen. Their bone structure and other physical features that often aren't even noticeable in real life, come together in such a way to make them appear more perfect than they really are when photographed. They are simply photogenic. Some actors also can act and too many can't. What you see on the screen is often 180 degrees from what the actors are really like. With these nagging doubts in the back of my mind I read on. It's easy to see why women tend to like this book so well. The same is probably true for her erotic videos.
Even as a male, I found reading this book enlightening. The author/filmmaker is constantly stressing how important lighting, music, makeup, mood and location are for love making both in film and in real life. She provides long lists of sample music and practical ideas for flattering lighting. She warns her readers how to avoid finding themselves in a situation where you are worried about your lover becoming more interested in the actress on the screen than you and how to avoid having their lover or themselves experience feelings of physical inferiority to the movie actors in her films.
Another of the many puzzling things to me was how many people really have the time or energy to spend so much time having sex. Many of her fantasy sessions seem intended to last for many hours or most of the night. That's good if you have the entire weekend for playing such games or if you don't have to get up and go to work in the morning. Perhaps the author was describing only occasional sexual fantasies? This book is well worth the time it takes to read and enjoy. It makes you want to run out of the house or office to buy some of the author's erotic films as soon as possible. This tome gives the reader lots of ideas for adding the extra orgasms back in their sex life. Every couple can benefit from some of the creative suggestions the author provides for adding zip to their routine sex lives.
One final note on the sub-topic of this review. It's difficult to resist mentioning how much I enjoyed the delivery system of this book. Although I've been doing more and more reading on my Kindle, yesterday, when I was ordering a book on Amazon.com I noticed there was a chance to order the book on Kindle or in actual "dead tree" paperback. I choose the paperback book. The price reduction for the Kindle version wasn't enough of a savings. Although I'm adapting to Kindle editions, given a choice I'll still usually pick the regular, more familiar book format. I expect that in many cases, unless I'm planning to be traveling and don't want to carry around a bunch of heavy books, I'll still favor the "real hard copy of the book" if that version is available. However, I predict that in the near future most books will only be available in digital formats. Economics and conservation goals will eventually combine to eliminate the choice. It may take decades before the new generation thinks "Digital E-Books" are the normal method of publication, but it is coming. One only has to see what has happened to photography to see the future of book publishing. I hope this reviewer's fascination with this new book delivery system doesn't distract the potential reader of this volume from buying this enlightening guide book for upgrading their own sex life with dozens and dozens of very pragmatic and creative suggestions. It's fun to have so many kinds of yummy desserts from which to choose.

How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do: Sex Advice from a Woman Who Knows

Because of the title, I taught that this was a man oriented book in wich Mrs Royalle was doing us the favor or revealing "the secret" to please our women. It is more a women oriented book who tells the girls how to make sure they will get what they want...and asking in the most subtle way if they have to. I enjoyed the book for my part even if it was impossible for me to practice some of the "Tricks" we found in it but, If I ever have the chance to meet a girl who has read that book and who is becoming "subtle" with me, I will probably react much better and not asking myself "What is going on ?"
Don't get me wrong here, there are a few tricks for men but the book was created for women and teach how to get her men to do things she wants.

I really enjoyed this book. I found that it covers the many areas of sexuality that women want talking to. I liked how Candida personalized it, made it more authentic and very readable.

This is a wonderful, down-to earth and sexy book!!! I have given it to some of my friends who are in new relationships and they have loved it, too. Candida Royalle's engaging and generously personal writing style has much to offer her audience. A must-read for all women who wish to nuture and enhance their erotic lives. Great insight and suggestions for keeping long-term relationships exciting, as well as beauty and health tips aimed to help women feel and look their best. An empowering, positive message!

Candida Royalle so generously shares her wisdom and experience with us in this book. Fabulous for women, but also for men. It is written from the heart as well as the clit! It's fun, sexy and a very worthwhile read. I enjoyed reading about Candida's experiences as a feminist sex film maker. Very inspiring. From a certified sexologist's perspective, the book's information is also very sound and current.
Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D.